My changing thoughts on love

I am prompted today by two things…my fantastic boyfriend who has taught me more about love than I ever thought possible, and this article:

“Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person”

This article by the New York Times really resonates with me. I have always believed in love at first sight and every romantic notion that goes along with it. To think otherwise was callous and cynical, I thought! Thank you to the love of my life, however, for giving me a new perspective on love and the most fulfilling relationship I have had yet.

” Recklessness is taken as a counterweight to all the errors of reason…”

I love this quote. Romantic movies have tricked us into thinking forever love

a) starts like a fairytale

b) remains a fairytale

c) is fast and reckless

I know now that the best relationships grow better with time. Stability, comfort and safety > spontaneity and uncertainty.

I will leave you with this last quote, but please read the article for yourself!

And thank you to my dear Kevin for a new found perspective on life and love. My perfectly imperfect soulmate ❤

“Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.”

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