Emotional Labor

Thank God for this article because it articulated something I have never been able to.

Emotional labor.

For someone who is so consumed with their emotions, I found. this article to be very enlightening.

I often feel burdened by my emotions and the emotions of others.

Apparently this feeling is shared by other women and many men are unaware of the toll it takes on their friends, girlfriends, wives, and daughters.

“We are told frequently that women are more intuitive, more empathetic, more innately willing and able to offer succor and advice. How convenient that this cultural construct gives men an excuse to be emotionally lazy. How convenient that it casts feelings-based work as “an internal need, an aspiration, supposedly coming from the depths of our female character.”

Emotional Labor



Today I am trapped

Trapped under the force of others’ words

A whisper in an empty forest

What meaning do words carry if they are not heard?


Buried under the weight of oppression

And the absence of change


Pleas mean nothing

United under forced silence

United as one

The faceless, nameless majority

Please listen.

Please hear me as I cry out for my friends

The voiceless

Those crushed under those who care not to listen.

Life of an unsung hero

I think at this point my boyfriend would make some joke about an “unhung hero” but anyway, moving on:

The older I get the more I’m impressed with genuinely good, nice people.

Apparently I have passed the age where I am young and adorable and people must be nice to me because I am just that: young and adorable. More notably, naive and innocent.

Working as an intern for a prestigious orchestra festival has solidified my role as UNSUNG HERO.

To be clear, Musicians=Heroes, Interns=Unsung Heroes.

Arts administration is interesting in that without it the heroes would cease to exist. (Most) musicians lack the skills to create their own career, hence the need for arts administrators.

I will not lie, I miss the glory.

However I’m still a musician. I would like to create a culture where musicians can achieve success without the necessary evil that is- you must be a head case and practice 8+ hours a day.

As I grow I am also learning the value of *balance*

Here is a profile of the person I would like to become: Violin teacher (hero to young aspiring violinists), arts administrator, wife, mother, gardener, builder of things, thinker, advice giver, chef, yogi.

There is more to me than just violin, but that doesn’t mean it is less a part of me. Instead it enhances me. It enriches my life. It has taught me so much. It will continue to teach me even more.

~cheers & goodnight


My changing thoughts on love

I am prompted today by two things…my fantastic boyfriend who has taught me more about love than I ever thought possible, and this article:

“Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person”

This article by the New York Times really resonates with me. I have always believed in love at first sight and every romantic notion that goes along with it. To think otherwise was callous and cynical, I thought! Thank you to the love of my life, however, for giving me a new perspective on love and the most fulfilling relationship I have had yet.

” Recklessness is taken as a counterweight to all the errors of reason…”

I love this quote. Romantic movies have tricked us into thinking forever love

a) starts like a fairytale

b) remains a fairytale

c) is fast and reckless

I know now that the best relationships grow better with time. Stability, comfort and safety > spontaneity and uncertainty.

I will leave you with this last quote, but please read the article for yourself!

And thank you to my dear Kevin for a new found perspective on life and love. My perfectly imperfect soulmate ❤

“Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.”

Wine inspired list of likes

Here’s a fun exercise and something, in my opinion, we should strive to think about everyday. Here is my list of “likes.”

*A good glass of red wine

*The feeling of a cat laying on your stomach

*Hot water on your skin when you’re really cold

*A kiss that melts into something more

*The first inhale of marijuana

*A beautifully written card

*The perfect word that enhances a sentence

*The final moment before leaving the house to do something exciting

*A tight hug when you need one the most

*The smell of firewood on a cold night

*Hand lotion that doesn’t stay sticky

*A foot or hand massage

*A beautiful color combination

*A good stretch

*A flavorful bite

*An animal when they first wake up (as if they weren’t sure they were going to see you again when you went to sleep)

* A dimly lit room



Ode to acceptance

This is my ode to acceptance

of all that I cannot change

right now right ever …forever

flaws are perfect in the now

until the time comes to set them free

unto the sky on the wings of birds

and find another to fall in its place

flaws flaws flaws are here

to stay

so why worry

there comes another day


Things I would like to say, but can’t.

“You’re just jealous.”

This makes me sound like a pretentious bitch. But sometimes it is true. When you’re doing you in life and kicking ass, people get jealous. Hell, I’ve been jealous. Many times. So when it’s your turn to be the “envied” one, live it up and don’t back down. Own it.

“You are weak.”

Some people are weak individuals and you can’t bully them into being stronger. It doesn’t work like that. When people are making bad decisions, they are in denial. They need kindness and understanding. I should work on that…

“Stop getting in my way because you’re holding me back.”

Some projects are meant to be done alone. I am especially fond of solo projects. Blame being an only child or an extreme perfectionist, but typically people helping me is more like people getting in my way. I should really learn to play well with others.

***This is a PMS inspired post. Normal blog posts should resume in 3-5 business days.